Idea for roleplay...how can I bring it up??

[CherryChick248]

I wanted to start out by saying HI...I haven't posted in months and months. I've lurked occasionally but...anyway, I have a little question and I knew no one could help but you guys so...
I have this sex fantasy where I want my boyfriend to, for lack of a better term, "rape" me. You know, like play rape. He is extremely open with me and I know that if I brought it up he would do it, I just don't exactly know how to bring it up. I want him to kind of surprise me, and be really rough with me, call me names, the whole bit. I have no idea how to bring it up though. Any suggestions? And guys, if your lady brought this up, would you think she was crazy? Thanks for your help.
-cherry-

[WildIrish]

Find a story that really hit's the nail on the head with what you want to do with him, and show it to him. Tell him something like "I read this story and just wanted to show it to you cause it's really hot. " Then gauge his reaction. If he agrees, then ask if he'd consider trying it with you. If he seems unsure then just say "I don't know how you feel about it, but I think it looks kinda fun to me." If you don't wanna come right out and hand it to him, maybe you could print it out and "accidently" leave it in the printer? Good luck!

[Lovediva]

Tell him you are all game to do this "play role" and what you want done to you and so on...but also tell him it has to happen when you are least expected!!
It makes it that much more instense sexual pleasure!

Just don't do it in public places...somebody might call 911!!:eek:

Good luck!! And don't forget to let us know how it went! ;)

[Lilith]

I have to say I have a serious nonconsent fantasy streak. Comes from me being such a damn control freak or vice versa. Mr. Lil expressed his worries about playing a rape role play. He is afraid he will go to far and scare me or hurt me ( yeah right, as if:p) I think a safe word is crucial when you are playing a role where "Stop!" & "Ow you're hurting me" etc. are part of the game.

I agree with Wild Irish about the story starter. You could also mention it in terms of light bdsm or restraint play as well.

[Incubus255]

Well gee since I now have an option here to speak out and reveal a little more about myself than I like people knowing I might as well take the chance

I hear ya there lol I've always been really turned on by the whole non concent thing, well the roleplaying aspect of it lol anyone who knows me knows I couldn't hurt a fly lol but still, I'll give ya that it is NOT an easy fantasy to bring up, I'm tempted to say you have it easier as a female as I know how rough it is on me lmao, I've shared the fantasy with what all of one person, and the best result I got from her was to not hate me right away and basically never bring it up again.

On the other hand one of my best friends is completely into everything like that and I can always talk to her about everything, thats what I love most about that girl lol she knows everything about me , now if I could only find a girl that I could be that open about

it's certainly one of the more taboo fantasies around I'd say, although I know alot of people enjoy it, still lol I'm ever so shy so maybe thats the problem ^__^ lol

oh yeah THE POINT!! lmao, lol I'd probally be shy at first as I am about most things when they are first brought up, but I'm always willing to try anything lol, I'd suggest first working on the whole dirty talking thing and letting him know that you like it rough, just kinda a slow progression into things, I'm sure he'll love the idea though hon ^__^ Best of luck!

[dicksbro]

One time my wife and I tried that fantasy, but I'm afraid I couldn't bring myself to even do that in play. :( Not as easy to do as it sounds when the last thing you want to do is to scare or hurt someone (even when you both know it's only play). Do tell us how it goes.

BTW, welcome to Pixies!

[nikki1979]

lol hubby and i have tried that one... i never hold the role to well tho its just sooooooooooooo hard to pretend u dotn want to be fucked hard!!! lol
if yall do it def have a safe word . something off the wall that will get his attention u cant use anything as vauge as stop lol we use an animal cuz its not a thought or word that ever comes up during normal sex

[Incubus255]

lol I actually always perfered the whole, doesn't like it but really does thing myself