I urge you....

[jennaflower]

The last week has been hard on many of us here at Pixies with the obvious (and painful) absence of our much loved friend Skipthisone. I am certain that I am not the only one who has done a lot of soul searching. This loss has hit many hard.

During this past week I have fought many emotions... regrets..... and guilt over the things I wish I had said/done/expressed to my friend. I will continue to grieve for some time to come... but I am comforted in many ways by the countless ways in which Skip touched my life.

This thread isn't my attempt at expressing my grief.. or opening the wound for those of you who are dealing... day by day... as I am. Instead.. it is my attempt at bringing an important subject up... one that I wish now had been brought up long ago.

Thru this experience I have come to one very important realization.... Life is short.. can be brought to an end without warning, suddenly, and without any opportunity to say goodbye. This is a cold hard fact in life... one that I was aware of in my daily life.. but never entered into my thought process here. Stupidly.. I figured that Skip would be here the next time I turned on my pc.. and the next.. and so on. I was wrong.

Along with this realization came the knowledge that Skip is only ONE of many friends that I hold dear that I have meet here. I know that it would effect me terribly if anything happened to anyone of them without me being aware of it... We are a very bonded community.. even those that you may not contact on a regular basis may feel very close to you thru your posts..

After conversing with several.. I have decided to bring up a suggestion... so that if something were to happen to you... that somehow... someway... WE here at Pixies would know. If it hadn't been for Lexi, chances are we may never have known about Skip... and that thought saddens me greatly. (Thank you Lexi).

Please consider trusting ONE person in your life with the contact information necessary so that they can reach one of us.. before it is too late. I don't believe doing so will result in "outting" any sort of secret life. You don't have to provide them with the website... provide them with a name (if you hide this place from your family, choose someone you are close to online of the same gender)... provide them with a phone number.. and email address... anything that may ensure that those of us who care will know..

IF anyone would like.. they can contact me.. I will give you my phone number... my address... my email address... whatever...

I know that we don't "plan" on dying... but we never know...

Please.. think about it..

Thanks..

[Steph]

Very good idea. Alas, PF is in constant contact with me to make sure the dog is cared for . . . if anything happens to me, he'll be up for the dog in two shakes of a tail. On a serious note, my ex and I are still in contact and he's well aware of my connection to the site should anything happen.

{{{{jenna}}}}}

[Sugarsprinkles]

This is an excellent point to bring up, jenna. I hope that most, if not all of us follow thru on your suggestion. Even if it's not a death, but merely some kind of life event that would keep us offline, our friends need to be notified.

I have your number programmed into my cell phone and would hope that if anything were to happen to me that everyone whose number is in there would be called and notified. In fact have a few Pixies numbers, so I've got plenty of "back up."

[Lilith]

Scotz and I had this discussion once a long time ago. Mr. Lil is a member and needless to say knows how important all of you are to me. So Goddess/God forbid, he would get ahold of the site or most likely find Aqua.

[IAKaraokeGirl]

And, obviously, kleclere would let you all know...and I've given serious consideration over the past few months of bringing my sister into the loop. Hopefully, that will cover all necessary bases.

((all of you))

[imaginewithme]

Good idea. I have a couple friends that I live by that are members here... my husband knows I come here so if anything, I am sure he would tell my girlfriend to tell ya'll.

I hate the thought of loosing anyone.

[Sassy Rose]

Jenna, this is a fantastic thread, thank you *big tight hugs* This exact same thing came to my mind a little over a year ago when I had my accident. I told my husband then that if anything should ever happen to me that I would want him to contact Lilith or someone else on the site. Yes, he's a member though he has never posted *L* another lurker.

[Sharni]

Bilbo would notify you.....but if it were both of us....then there is no one

But if i am gone for an extended time and i haven't let someone know whats going on (Lilith or PF)....ya can bet something not so good has happened

[Oldfart]

Same for me, unless my other half can find Lil's mobile number.

[LixyChick]

I'm covered jenna! Mr. Lixy is a member (lurker) and he knows to notify you all ASAP. If anything should happen to both of us, we can rely on SUPERPIPE to get word to someone here. It's a definite must and I TY for bringing up the not-so-easy subject.

*hugs*

[jennaflower]

I am glad to see that I have not been alone in my thoughts regarding this... there are soooo many here that I have bonded with and have VERY deep affection for... it would haunt me if something "may" have happened.. and I would wonder forever... and in the same way... I would hate to think that those who care about me would do the same if I didn't figure a way to leave word...

I will do so...

[GingerV]

I've got a slightly different take. Should the worst happen, I've left enough sign posts on my computer that my darling boy could find this place. It's not that I expect folks here would want to know what happened to me, necessarilly. More....I'd trust you all to help him through it. I can't say better of this place than being willing to trust you with that particular job.

Sorry, my slightly maudlin observation for the night. I'll go hush up now.

[Lilith]

(((((((((GingerV)))))))))) we'd help eachother, but I hope it won't be necessary anytime soon.

[Aqua]

My being here is a very well kept secret... but if anything happened, Lilith would find out somehow.

[flutelady]

My sweetheart knows about Pixie's... boy oh boy does he know. If anything were to happen to me, he would let you know.


Thank you for this thread, Jenna....

[Vullkan]

Dear Ms ....Flower

A most capital idea--I wish I knew other members well enough to entrust contact information. I would just hope that if something did happen to me that my brother and best friend would alert the world. But as it seems I am nearly indestructable so hopefully that isn't something I need to worry about.

[Fireguy1222]

Although I have not replied to hardly any posts, I feel like I know a lot of you through reading your thoughts and ideas. I did give this any thought, even though with my job I probably should. Not too long ago I was in a structure fire and the roof collapsed trapping me and my partner. He ran out of air and I hooked his face mask to mine. When the air supply got to below ten minutes I disconnected myself from the air supply. I was hospitalized for a couple of days for smoke inhalation. That wasn't the fun part, that came later when the dept made me see a shrink because of my pending divorce. They thought it might have been a suicide attampt-HA. Life is too short to try to think of ways of ending it. I didn't think about anything except saving my partner. M family, friends, co-workers we gald that I was alright. I don't have anyone who I could have contact this sight. Well, if anyone would like to be my contact PM me and let me know.

[jennaflower]

Fireguy..

First.. glad to hear that you made it out... firefighters deserve praise.. for so many reasons.. HUGS..

Second.. I hope that you will begin to post.. more.. and more... and allow those of us here to get to know more about you...

Third... PLEASE feel free to provide my contact info to those you trust.. Hugs

[Loulabelle]

I've had this same thought on many an occasion actually (perhaps I'm just morbid, but I often think about the 'what ifs' in life.....part of my cautious nature I suppose!

Having said that, Fussy and I have each other, and there are other people on Pixies whose details we have, so I think we're pretty covered.

Good thing to bring up though Jenna....it's important to look out for one another and for a lot of people this place is more of a lifeline than we realise.

[Catch22]

Nice to see you all care about each other so. That is a rare thing and even more so to see it on the net. One can chat with people on the net for ages and then one day they are gone.

[dicksbro]

My wife isn't a member, but knows the names and addresses of four great Pixies. I've told her and I've no doubt she'd let someone know ...

It is a great idea. You all mean the world to me.

((( HUGS )))