Fantasies: Why or Why Not?

[krzykrn]

After having a conversation with someone, I started thinking about fantasies...obviously everyone has one (hopefully you have many! :D), but you or your partner are not always willing or wanting to make it a reality. I was curious as to a few things:

1) Is there a fantasy you or your lover have that one of you is uncomfortable with bringing it to life?
2) Did you or your partner ever "come around" so to speak, to go ahead with the idea, and if so, what caused the change in heart?

[Lilith]

My fantasies involve a MMF and Mr. Lil is just not comfortable with it. My deepest fantasy reagrding a MMF does not require his participation only his agreement.;)

[Cjack]

Lilith
Maybe it's best to leave it a fantasy, if you act on it then it becomes a reality and can never be a fantasy again.

[Lilith]

I have dozens of fantasies....fantasies would be just fluff without the possiblity of them actually happening.

[Sharni]

Believe me....just cause ya get ya fantasy doesnt mean it cant still be one *LOL*

I've had a MMF....and it still is a fantasy to do it again one day

[cherrypie7788]

MMF is a big one for me as well.

The rape fantasy is my main one though, not like street rape or anything, but being "forced" and dominated by a man, held down and fucked HARD, that sort of thing. My ex used to do it to me, and oh how I miss it :(

Sharni is right, just because you acted out your fantasty doesn't mean that it goes away.

[Loulabelle]

I'm definitely with you ladies on the MMF fantasies....and also MFF would be great too, although an entirely different experience, in my mind.

I think the reasons this is a fantasy that's not been filled are pretty obvious. I realise that messing with this kind of thing, MIGHT cause complications and problems within my relationship, and that's just not something we feel ready to address as a couple yet....who knows in the future, but I think it's best to be cautious before entering into that kind of thing....no sexual fantasy is worth risking a relationship for, but that works two ways....if being sexually experimental in terms of group sex, swinging etc will help the relationship to flourish (which I believe is possible for a lot of people) then it's something that shouldn't be ruled out either.

[wyndhy]

i gots a few ;)

i have a long-time fantasy of watching him with another guy, it always plays out a little different with a few constants--it's hard, it's fast and it's explicit and all i do is watch.
*blush*
still don't want it to come true though, i like it just fine where it is--inside my head. i think it'll stay there forever.

threesomes where i do actually participate...any kind... are a thought i've been pondering more and more lately but i don't know if i can call it a fantasy yet. not uninterested but not quite at the point where it's something i often think about when i'm satisfying that itch solo-like.

once or twice i have fantasized about me and another girl, too. i'm usually the...aggresive one ;) i did experiment with this once, a long time ago, and i most likely will not do it again unless it's part of a threesome.

and the ever-present strap-on fantasy. he did buy me one, gave it to me for valentine's...however, i'm still trying to swallow my shy and use it on him. i've had it on though... :spin:

if you've ver seen a fire engine you know exactly what color my cheeks are right now...silly isn't it...especially since i'm the only one in the room. :rolleyes2

[flutelady]

I've got fantasies, but never much act on them. Maybe it's time to change that. I think -if he's game- I'll indulge myself this weekend... it's a small one, but it's a start!

As to why or why not... I guess I'm a chicken.

[WildIrish]

and the ever-present strap-on fantasy. he did buy me one, gave it to me for valentine's...however, i'm still trying to swallow my shy and use it on him. i've had it on though... :spin:


Having him buy it is a huge green light! I totally know what you mean about being shy. I'm very hesitant to indulge in something different for the first time despite having been told it's ok to. I wish you luck with it and healthy & happy experimenting.

[wyndhy]

thank you, sweetie :)

[WildIrish]

thank you, sweetie :)


yvw...now about that note to Mrs. WI ;)

[wyndhy]

i'm on it :D
do you want a few illustrations thrown in so there's no confusion as to who is doin' what to whom?

[WildIrish]

i'm on it :D
do you want a few illustrations thrown in so there's no confusion as to who is doin' what to whom?

Mmmmmmm...dirty pictures! Yes please! :D