Current girlfriend problems

[Mark Vieth]

Hi all, yep it's me once again. I'm wanting some advice on somethings here so please feel free.

Now I've known this girl for 4 or so years now. I finally met her about 3 or so months ago. Now here's the thing, every time she has a problem with me, she expects me to work it out. On top of that she get's her friends to ring me when I have told her that I just want a day to myself and when I think it's one of her other friends calling me and I tell her she asks me why I lied to her. Now it's not my fault that some of her friends sound the same on the phone.

Anyway any advice here would be helpful.

[lazaruslong]

My first reaction is to tell you to consider getting a answering machine and not answering till you know who it is...

My second reaction is to suggest a new GF.

[divot109]

Very interesting.......question is, DO you know what it is that you want. Based on your thread, it sounds to me like you might be double-dipping...if you know what I mean!!!! It might not be your fault that your GF's friends sound the same, but it IS your fault that you are lying about it!!!

Get a grip...be honest...decide what it is that you want, then move on from there!!!! My guess is that you are pretty young and need to grow up a bit!

Sorry if I sound harsh, but it sounds to me as though YOU need a reality check!!! Besides, you asked for "any advice", and that is my advice! Good luck and keep us posted as to what ensues!!!!

Divot>>>>>>>>>>>>>

[lonelyarmywife]

I've read some of your other posts in the advice column, and i'm going to dish out some hardcore shit that you might not be ready for. Consider this your disclaimer, if you don't want the tough love skip the rest of this post.


You sir, need to break up with said girlfriend. then you need to stay single. For a very long time. i don't mean by this that you are a bad boyfriend, man, person, lay, and I certanly don't mean that you are hopeless and will never have a meaningful relationship. But everytime you post about a problem, it seems as though the issues that need to be worked through are YOURS. There seems to be a general lack of understanding about the female workings (not just anatomically speaking, but the whole package). Not that any other dudes have it completely togehter, lol, but the way you describe your relatioships they seem to be focused on what you want, and perhaps less on what your partner wants than they should be. More emphasis on "why do I have to change" and less on "let's compromise togehter"
So take a break. don't put any paramaters on it (i.e., i'm going to be single for two months) just be alone for a little while, sort out your life. Find a good girl FRIEND (different from a girlfriend)closeby that can give you women's perspectives on your day to day behavior. And most importantly, don't go looking for relationships- let them come to you. You never realize what you may find when you stop looking.
Maybe I've gotten a skewed perspective of your relationships from reading online, and if I have, I apologize. I'm just calling it like I see it to be from what i know. and like i said, it doesn't mean your hopeless, just maybe a little inwardly focused. Things WILL work out for you, but you need to figure out what you want first and what you're willing to do to get it.

And just in case you're mad at me, I'll show you some titties to cheer you up! :boobs: :boobs: :boobs: :boobs: :boobs: :boobs:

Sincerely,
LAW

[Lilith]

No relationship can really grow in the soil of distrust.

[Mark Vieth]

Well thank you all, first let me say this, I didn't go looking for this one, this relationship just landed on my lap. There are other things as well which I have done which have also spurred her into this direction. No I haven't cheated on her and it's not something that I do either. I know that I say and do things that are a bit off the cuff at times but she knows not to take me too seriously. Her friends are also ringing me and telling me things that just don't make sense. She has even told them to leave me alone. She wonders why I'm having some issues trying to believe her with certain things.

But we did work out why they were doing it. It had to do with $10 dollars that one friend owed the other. It had nothing to do with my g/f but they made it out that she was always mentioning it to them. I know what your thinking, what the fuck?

Yeah petty things can make people do stupid things.

[WildIrish]

Am I retarded?

I have no idea what the heck you're talking about! :confused:

She wants you to fix whatever she gets mad at you about. You want a day to yourself but you think she tells her friends, who sound like her, to call you and when you tell her she hollers at you. I'm lost.

[mayhem1978]

Having re-read this post over the last 2 days may i offer the following, you can totally ignore it if you want.

I have been in a similar situation and sadly it resulted in a divorce. She was making demands on me to change into something that im not and when i wanted time to myself to sort things out and figure out where i wanted to go she would come up with some excuse for her to be around. Sometimes she wouldnt even leave me alone in a room.

I agree with lonleyarmywife you sir DO need ti be rid of this GF and take some time alone.

ill get off my soapbox now,

[Irish]

I'm not really one to give advice,but I have been married,to the same woman,
for just over 40yrs.Every good relationship,is based on compromise!I have
seen,many,relationships fail because,in the long term,people try to make the other,be as they would like.They don't seem to realize,that it isn't what
attracted them, in the first place!Many may disagree,but that's my $.02.
Irish

[lonelyarmywife]

I'm not really one to give advice,but I have been married,to the same woman,
for just over 40yrs.Every good relationship,is based on compromise!I have
seen,many,relationships fail because,in the long term,people try to make the other,be as they would like.They don't seem to realize,that it isn't what
attracted them, in the first place!Many may disagree,but that's my $.02.
Irish
You know, people get paid big bucks for that kind of advice...they're called couple's therapists.

brilliant response, irish.

[LixyChick]

Am I retarded?

I have no idea what the heck you're talking about! :confused:

She wants you to fix whatever she gets mad at you about. You want a day to yourself but you think she tells her friends, who sound like her, to call you and when you tell her she hollers at you. I'm lost.
We must take the "little bus" to different schools together...cause I'm as lost as you WI!

My advice? [cause I have to say something to save grace...whoever grace is???] Don't pet the sweaty things and don't sweat the petty things!

Hey! I should have kept that advice for something I knew what I was talking about!!! LMFAOAPMP!

[Steph]

We must take the "little bus" to different schools together...cause I'm as lost as you WI!


/me shifts over in her bus seat to allow other confused cuties on board

[Cheyanne]

The Wheels on the Bus Go Round and Round... round and round, round and round....

The Wheels on the bus...........................

[BIBI]

....all through the town

Hate to say it but your not very clear in what your trying to convey.......

[Oldfart]

Listen to me, goose.

Eject, eject eject.

A relationship is a balanced meeting of two or more people.

There is no balance here.

[Gekko]

Indeed.

[Mark Vieth]

Just keeping everyone up to speed as to what's happened so far. Well it's all sorted and yes she is going to give me my breathing room. Now as far as her friends are concerned they have been doing this coz they are not happy with something else that is going on with them. So they turn on her through me. Yep is sucks being the conducting point but somebody's got to do it. LOL!!!

As far as I can tell she is letting go of her mistrust toward me and hopefully it's all steam ahead captain. The reason that she has these concerns is to do with her past relationships. I did tell her that I am not in the same boat as these dickheads that she was with.

I'll keep you all informed as to any new developments. As they say no news is good news. So I hope that this will be the last of it.

[lazaruslong]

Just keeping everyone up to speed as to what's happened so far. Well it's all sorted and yes she is going to give me my breathing room. Now as far as her friends are concerned they have been doing this coz they are not happy with something else that is going on with them. So they turn on her through me. Yep is sucks being the conducting point but somebody's got to do it. LOL!!!

As far as I can tell she is letting go of her mistrust toward me and hopefully it's all steam ahead captain. The reason that she has these concerns is to do with her past relationships. I did tell her that I am not in the same boat as these dickheads that she was with.

I'll keep you all informed as to any new developments. As they say no news is good news. So I hope that this will be the last of it.

Me too