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wyndhy
09-07-2006, 02:20 PM
according to oscar wilde - it's the last refuge of the unimaginative.

according to francis bacon - it's the foundation of virtue.

beautiful pixies, i have a few(dozen) questions, and i'd love it if you took a little bit of your time to give me your ideas and if you can't do that...at least just mull 'em over in your own head. ;)



are you consistent? do you find that your personal and world views change from year to year or even day to day? can we express those changes of opinion without being called impressionable or indecisive? or if we do change our minds...even if it's a lot...are we impressionable and indecisive?

what of our moods? do they affect your opinions on a daily basis? especially opinions and tolerances of other people - feeling copasetic and sympathetic? feeling prickly and contentious? think how that may affect how you feel toward illegals or drug abusing moms. is it ok that our moods can essentially change our opinions? or should we have the same thoughts no matter how we feel emotionally?

is it all about our individual particulars, or is it more to do with age? are we more likely to be stubborn about our own opinions when we are young and arrogant, or old and stuck in our ways?


consistently changing and consistently curious,
wyndhy

Coaster
09-07-2006, 02:30 PM
Well I'll mull this over on my drive to CT......

But for now.......... the only constant is change!

Aqua
09-07-2006, 02:37 PM
I know I've been consistently horny for about 22 years. :D

That's a lot to consider. Let me think about it.

WildIrish
09-07-2006, 03:31 PM
The more things change...the more they stay the same. :p

Actually, like in every aspect of life, there's times and instances where it's applicable and times when it's not.

Home life...is very constant. Really the only thing that's unpredictable is the chaos & turmoil associated with having three children that are getting older (and more social) as time goes by. But even then, the chaos is a constant in itself.

Lilith
09-07-2006, 05:40 PM
I am fairly consistent as far as my opinions go. They are usually based on strong feelings I can't ignore and those things tend to remain constant. In my job I am very consistent. I am open to change but a tad inflexible. I don't like sudden change.

Oldfart
09-07-2006, 06:03 PM
I am constant and consistent. Change for no purpose, as a supposed ploy to stave off staleness, is not my way.

Pita
09-07-2006, 08:43 PM
I am pretty much consistent in my fundamental beliefs, thoughts, and actions. I have a good understanding of my opinions and why I have them, and I'm not swayed very often. That isn't to say I can't be influenced into seeing something new and therefore changing my mind. I am always open to change if I feel it is right for me.

I am a woman however and when a mood is upon me there is no telling what might happen. :bite:

PantyFanatic
09-07-2006, 09:20 PM
Ambivalent, ….. me?




Well yes and no. :rolleyes2

seminalfluid
09-07-2006, 10:28 PM
I am consistantly variable.

lizzardbits
09-07-2006, 10:59 PM
are you consistent? When it comes to parenting or a job, yes I am. I believe that with parenting consistency is the holy Grail. If you consistantly follow through with punishment and rewards, then the child has no uncertainties whether you ment yes or no. The opposite, and you are in consistant then that child will walk all over you. With the types of jobs that I have had in the past (working with adults with mental and physical disablities, cosistencey in their programs and staff being consistant would help the person to learn and keep staff and myself safe.
do you find that your personal and world views change from year to year Yes, when it comes to big life altering events, or techniques in better teaching my children, I will change my opinion. sometimes i become an activist for the new "cause" (but don't worry, I do very very very little preaching of my causes here--Pixies is a "cause-free zone") Over the years I have switched religious ways of thinking 2348756283434 times, and found on that I am comfortable with, and last year I got to go on *my* own "pilgrimmage to *my* Mecca" and went and touched the stones at Stonehenge on the summer Solstice.
or even day to day? Today the green shirt looks good on me, but yesterday I looked good in my black and grey "DORK" shirt
can we express those changes of opinion without being called impressionable or indecisive?we can change, as long as we have researched or know in our hearts that it feel right
or if we do change our minds...even if it's a lot...are we impressionable and indecisive? Yes, as I belive that is the definition.

what of our moods?
do they affect your opinions on a daily basis?yes, i.e. green shirt, Dork shirt
especially opinions and tolerances of other people - feeling copasetic and sympathetic? I know that over the years there have been several time that I have changed my mind about some one after the first impression. I have realized that if I am feeling crappy that day that I meet Mr. Joe Schmoe, he is evil and out to get the world in his grip. The next day, I talk to Joe and find out that he is a really nice guy, plus I am feeling better that day.
think how that may affect how you feel toward illegals or drug abusing moms. is it ok that our moods can essentially change our opinions? yes I think it ok, I guess that when I am riding my bi-polor rollercoaster, that I can change what I think of Joe Schmoe. I be loathed to keep all mt depressed and sometimes wrongly colored impressions. and I know that I can change when I am feeling better
or should we have the same thoughts no matter how we feel emotionally? There are a few that no matter what I am feeling, they stay the same, Kids school, job, and my "causes", however I like that I can choose a food on how I am feeling.

is it all about our individual particulars, or is it more to do with age? I think that it is our individual particulars that make us consistant or indecisive, by what our pysical and emotional makeup as well as how we were brought up
are we more likely to be stubborn about our own opinions when we are young and arrogant, or old and stuck in our ways? All of the above, just depends on your individual particulars! was I cosistantly inconsistant for ya? :p

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scotzoidman
09-08-2006, 12:35 AM
Give me ambiguity, or give me something else...

osuche
09-08-2006, 12:02 PM
My beliefs and habits have changed a lot over the past 2 years....I think a lot of it due to some pretty big changes in my life. I got married, I moved 2500+ miles, and I started an MBA program where I met new people....and I made the move from big companies to very small companies. All of these things expanded my worldview.

In general, I tend to be pretty consistent on a daily or even weekly basis on my behavior. The one issue I combat is moodiness...but I've gotten better at masking my emotions at work. It takes evidence or someone's word I trust to change my mind, and I tend to be very logical/analytical.

I do think people's views, including my own, shift over time as they encounter new experiences and situations. :) I suspect having kids will be my next big shift.

scotzoidman
09-08-2006, 08:58 PM
Seriously, this would be a topic that I could definately get timed out on before I got thru ruminating...but the short version is, I think I have a certain set of core values that haven't changed significantly in 30 years of adult conciousness, but to say that I could go thru the shipwrecks of my recent history without changing my overall outlook would be foolish on my part...

FallenAngel5
09-09-2006, 09:45 PM
So I found myself reading most of these questions and thinking 'well, it depends...' so let's give this the college try

are you consistent? I think that I am a consistent person in my worldviews. While I am open-minded and willing to listen to and consider other's opinions, these opinions rarely change mine. I do think that consistency in most things is the key to success. It is also one of the things that is greatly stressed in my education coursework as something that children need to succeed.

do you find that your personal and world views change from year to year or even day to day? like I mentioned, I have staunch personal views. However, one of my views is that everyone has a valid opinion, so I often listen closely to what others have to say. Having said that, these conversations often lead to stronger personal views. Most of what I believe is based in the idea of equality. This is something that I feel to the core of my being, and I think that my views may not have changed over the years, but that they have matured to the point where I am confident that I can express myself and what I believe.

can we express those changes of opinion without being called impressionable or indecisive? I think that there are two cases here. There are people who ARE impressionable. But I think that this group of people is easily identified and should just be given time, as they will find the views that work for them. That being said, I think that it shows maturity to consider other's points to the point that we change our own opinion. I think that expressing these changes to the point of not being impressionable means that we must not change our mind with every person that comes our way. I think that we can have conflicting points of view, but many people are not ok with that.

or if we do change our minds...even if it's a lot...are we impressionable and indecisive? See: prior question

what of our moods? do they affect your opinions on a daily basis? I think that my moods may affect how I deal with people, but they don't affect my deep-seated opinions. I know that my moods will make me short and more difficult to deal with, but they don't affect my long-term opinions of individuals and people in general. Oftentimes when I am in a bad mood and deal with someone in a way that I normally wouldn't, I feel so bad about it that I go back and apologize and fix things.

especially opinions and tolerances of other people - feeling copasetic and sympathetic? feeling prickly and contentious? think how that may affect how you feel toward illegals or drug abusing moms. is it ok that our moods can essentially change our opinions? I don't think that my moods change my general opinions towards large groups of people. I more change the way I deal with people one-on-one. But like I said before, this isn't a permanent or drastic thing. I still am a tolerant and patient person, and this always shows when I deal with people. I just may bitch about it more behind their back :)

or should we have the same thoughts no matter how we feel emotionally? I think that our thoughts can change, because we do live fluid, not static. But I think that though our thoughts may change and differ on a day-to-day basis, our actions should remain consistent no matter how we feel.

is it all about our individual particulars, or is it more to do with age? I think that consistency is one of the things that we are brought up to be or not. Though I think that it partially has to do with age. Before our brains mature, we are basically incapable with having staunch, well-developed opinions. We are easily impressionable and changable with the day. But after that, I think that it depends on how we are raised.

are we more likely to be stubborn about our own opinions when we are young and arrogant, or old and stuck in our ways? This one I don't know. I've met both extremes, and I don't really have an opinion on this. :)

dicksbro
09-10-2006, 06:20 AM
Are you consistent? Do you find that your personal and world views change from year to year or even day to day? Can we express those changes of opinion without being called impressionable or indecisive? Or if we do change our minds...even if it's a lot...are we impressionable and indecisive?

I think my views on faith, people and politics haven't changed as much as evolved over the years. I find myself troubled by the level to which I've seen what I perceive as being a growth in hateful attitudes, something I don't recall as being as pervasive in the past as today.

My evolution in views has been basically to study my own convictions to help assure myself that my origianl beliefs were well founded. While not always easy, I think the effect has been to strengthen my convictions, not weaken them.

What of our moods? do they affect your opinions on a daily basis? Especially opinions and tolerances of other people - feeling copasetic and sympathetic? feeling prickly and contentious? Think how that may affect how you feel toward illegals or drug abusing moms. is it ok that our moods can essentially change our opinions? or should we have the same thoughts no matter how we feel emotionally?

I can certainly have emotional reactions that maybe exaggerate my normal feelings. An event like 9/11, for example, was a shock and caused feelings of anger at those that caused the event. But, I don't think it changes my basic acceptance of people of all faiths, political persuasions and ethnic backgrounds.

Is it all about our individual particulars, or is it more to do with age? are we more likely to be stubborn about our own opinions when we are young and arrogant, or old and stuck in our ways?

I suppose age and the accumulated experiences of life do change us, but since I don't think of myself as stubborn or arrogant or stuck in my ways, I don't know that I can really answer this very well. I have a core set of beliefs and opinions, but, when presented rationally, I will listen (I hope) respectfully to alternative points of view and evaluate them against my own.

Intersting questions and probably deserves even more of an answer, but I guess this'll do for now.