Any ideas?

[MConn71]

Hello to you all, we are kinda new to this site, M33 F29 have been typing in "how to spice up our sex life" on google, and to be honest have not found much of any use.
So this is the part where YOU come in......... any suggestions regarding what works for you would be great, we are both open minded and willing to experiment.

Any help would be gratefully recieved.

Thanks

MR and Mrs MConn71

PS (married with kids for 12 years)

x

[Matticus]

Well, depending on how you feel about it, adding a third person (male or female) to the mix is always fun. At least it has been for us.

Other than that--I would say to try some new and exotic sex toys, perhaps probe the anal question a bit. :loveshowe

[MConn71]

Anal question has been probed (not overly though), as for the third person, its not something i (m33) would be interested in although she does seem a bit obesed with swinging! We have some toys but dont use them much.

Thankyou for the reply, we are both genuinely wanting advice.

MR and Mrs MConn71

[Matticus]

Would you be interested at all if it was another female? Couples swinging can be really fun, we usually changed a standard game into a "take off your cloths" type thing and then just rolled around in a great big pile.

I can see how that would not be for everyone.

Have you guys tried sex outside--semi in public? That gets some peoples blood boiling.

[MConn71]

I suppose we are both a little self conscious so a third party, whatever gender is not really an option, when we first met we had alot of outside sex due to the fact we didnt have a place of our own, mostly in the car (not easy because Mr MConn is 6ft 5") that has'nt happened for a long time because we have three kids and its not easy to just nip off in the car for a bit of fun, even thougth it does bring a smile to both of our faces.

Mr and Mrs MConn71

[WildIrish]

How do you think she would respond to role playing? With Mrs. WI, it doesn't really work well because she doesn't immerse herself in the role. She just wants to get laid. ha ha

We don't engage in anal intercourse, but the rest is all good. Fingers, toys & tongues are more than welcome and highly encouraged.

Other than exploring some unorthodox positions and viewing some "educational videos", I would have to say that it would take some open minded willingness to push personal limits to come up with ideas.

Have you done the creampie thing? :hot: That, in itself, didn't change our sex life but it triggered an openness that we've been able to capitalize on. It showed her that it's ok to consider things we may think are "dirty" and that though we don't have to do everything...it's ok to think about trying some and that we can discuss it if need be.

[MConn71]

Just to clarify creampie, is that cumming in the pussy and then performing oral sex? (we probably see like prudes for not knowing) if so we have never tried that.

Thanks for the input

Mr and Mrs MConn71

[Lilith]

How about some light bondage? Silk scarves? Handcuffs?

[wyndhy]

trying different positions instead of just mercenary (guy on top).

making your own sexy video or pictures, even if no-one else sees it.

sending naughty emails or texts or phone messages all day and then jumping on each other when the kids finally go to bed.

[rockintime]

trying different positions instead of just mercenary...
LOL, wyndhy...MERCENARY!!!...sounds kind of like you're suggesting some "red light district" sex. :D

[Oldfart]

wyndhy,

Isn't the mercenary position when you're just in it for the money?


We probably need to understand what is meant by "spice up" before we jump in too deeply.

If it just means her getting dressed up as a Nurse and relieving symptoms, then a lazy trawl through some magazines may give you some ideas.

If it means bringing a third, fourth or bunch into the marital bed, this place is a seething morass of assistance.

If it means one or both going off and doing someone else's thing, then you need to talk out and agree to all the consequences, forseen and unforseen.

[Steph]

Hello to you all, we are kinda new to this site

Kinda new? You guys have been here since 2001! Belated hello!

Have you experimented with porn?

Maybe to make it more interesting, you could each bookmark a specific story from Literotica or something that really turns you on & let the other one read it alone. It could open dialogue?

What about even starting to chat with other people online together? Take turns typing . . . & stroking? :)

[Loulabelle]

If she is 'obsessed' with swinging, but it's not your cup of tea, how about a compromise?

Try sitting at the computer and writing an erotic story together about swinging. Let her go through the kind of scenario she has in her head, and you can contribute things that you think would be hot.

Once you're pleased with it, you could even post it here and see what feedback you get from others. I personally find it exciting when I write something that turns other people on.

Of course, the other thing you might try eventually, if you're brave is posting pictures here. I don't know a single person who hasn't felt liberated by the experience, and you can show as little or as much as you want - you'd be amazed how much you can get camera angles, lighting and cropping the finished pictures to work for you. I have pictures on here that I can't believe are really me, and it does so much for your confidence. Again, is also exciting to find out that you are attractive to other people, and trust me when I say, we don't go in for perfection around here. Chances are, the parts of your bodies that you worry the most about, are the parts that other people will be fascinated by.

Anyway, that's all I can think of off the top of my head right now. Good luck and good on you both for wanting to put in the effort still after 12 years and 3 kids. If there were more couples like you out there, I expect the divorce rate would be much lower!

[Loulabelle]

Oops, only just realised that not only are you from Britain, but you're from VERY close to where we are!

*waves out of the window in case you can see me*

[WildIrish]

Perhaps try some interesting clothing. According to this article (http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/14061671/)...it's more common than you may think.

[Matticus]

Of course, the other thing you might try eventually, if you're brave is posting pictures here. I don't know a single person who hasn't felt liberated by the experience, and you can show as little or as much as you want - you'd be amazed how much you can get camera angles, lighting and cropping the finished pictures to work for you. I have pictures on here that I can't believe are really me, and it does so much for your confidence. Again, is also exciting to find out that you are attractive to other people, and trust me when I say, we don't go in for perfection around here. Chances are, the parts of your bodies that you worry the most about, are the parts that other people will be fascinated by.

This is great advice. Some of the greatest sex nights we have had have been after posting naked pics on various sites. :loveshowe

[Cjack]

Dress her sexy and then go out and have her flash. Afterward go home and make love to her. Each time you go out have her push the envelope a little father.

[Aqua]

This is great advice. Some of the greatest sex nights we have had have been after posting naked pics on various sites. :loveshowe
Yeah, but what have you done for us lately? :p


Greeting Mr and Mrs Mconn! :wave: There are a lot of avenues to explore in this thread. Get some dialogue going and see what might work for you. One thing you could try is alternating nights of Master and Servant roles. I'm not saying do the whole leather masks and whips thing, (though if you are inclined, go for it), but more so lay out some ground rules and then one of you can dictate how the evening will go.... pick out the outfit, designate location (bed, floor, bathroom sink), and positions. Decide if it will be soft candlelight and sensuality, or maybe heavy music and hard fucking. The next night (or a couple nights after depending on schedules) the other is in charge of the evening.

Good luck!

[wyndhy]

LOL, wyndhy...MERCENARY!!!...sounds kind of like you're suggesting some "red light district" sex. :D
OMG! LMFAO.

that would be missionary. :o
eh-hem
carry on.

[MConn71]

Thankyou for all the replies you have made us feel very welcome.

Just a little update, we have decided to try a different approach to those offered on here, we have written down 5 things each we would like to try and put them in a jar (our pot of wonderment, lol), when we feel in the mood we pick one from the jar and give it a go, i was the lucky winner last time out getting to watch mrs mconn bring herself off, and then having the best sex we have had for a long time.

Thanks again for making us so welcome, this really is a wonderful site with wonderful people.

MR and MRS MConn71

x

Waving back at Loulabelle.

[wyndhy]

i love your pot of wonderment idea!

[Coaster]

Thankyou for all the replies you have made us feel very welcome.

Just a little update, we have decided to try a different approach to those offered on here, we have written down 5 things each we would like to try and put them in a jar (our pot of wonderment, lol), when we feel in the mood we pick one from the jar and give it a go, i was the lucky winner last time out getting to watch mrs mconn bring herself off, and then having the best sex we have had for a long time.

Thanks again for making us so welcome, this really is a wonderful site with wonderful people.

MR and MRS MConn71

x

Waving back at Loulabelle.

Sooooooooo, can you reveal what your 10 ideas are? maybe we can create our own jar of wonderment too.... i always like to surprise mrs coaster!

[CuteCoupleOz]

If you guys were closer, we'd invite you over for ...uh, uh, um.....a meeting of the minds....yeah yeah, dat's it.


And I just love the pot of wonderment idea.......much love and happiness and years and years of orgasms to such a caring inventive couple.


--kathy1

[thrushbeard]

You sort of went in a direction that I was going to suggest although your "pot of wonderment" is far more poetic than anything I would have come up with. You also have a great resource in all the stories at Pixies Place. I know I get ideas when I read them..