I am so upset right now.....

[mikaylasmummy]

Ok this may get long so I am sorry...

My partner and I have known eachother for around about 6 years now, and have been together for 2 of those years.
He has a son who is almost 9 and of course we have Mikayla. Things have been going great lately no problems no argument nothing.
I thought that I would take thing apon myself to take things to the next level and ask him to marry me.. I asked him on Friday an dhe said NO. I asked him why as someone would and he said " I do not care about you enough to marry you " :shrug:
WTF is that supposed to mean I mean you will have a baby with me but that is it, anyhow for the last 2 days we have been arguing nonstop. I have had it, today I started to move my stuff out of what was our room and I am going to make his son's mine and Mikayla's room.
I am at the point where I just want to leave and never look back I have had it with him.
Him and I have been through so much over the years I really do love him but I just hate the way he is with me sometimes.
I am seriously thining about moving out of here, but my problem is, is that he would not be able to afford the rent here on his own and I do not want his son to suffer becaus eof his actions and because of what he has said to me.
I have put up with alot of shit from him over the last 2yrs that him and I have been together and now I am and the end of my rope I just want to get Mikayla and all my stuff and leave..............

[Lilith]

I have put up with alot of shit from him over the last 2yrs that him and I have been together and now I am and the end of my rope I just want to get Mikayla and all my stuff and leave..............

Sounds like a plan!

He does not want to marry you. He was honest. If you can not handle it than I would advise you pack up and go. You are not having sex and he does not want to marry you. To me you appear to be not much more than room mates at this point. I don't think the message could be any clearer.

[osuche]

I'm sure I don't know all the details - relationships are complicated.

But if you're not sleeping together, he doesn't want to marry you, and you are sick of putting up with him....LEAVE.

It will be hard and scary to be on your own, but that's the only way to get enough distance that you can begin to focus on yourself and your child...and hopefully eventually find someone who appreciates you for you. You're cheating yourself from long-term happiness if you stay with him.

It's hard. But all the stuff worth doing in the world is hard. You'll make it through.

[Lilith]

Listen to her^^. My advice came out harsher than I intended. You deserve to expect more for yourself.

[cherrypie7788]

You say that he cannot afford the rent on his own like it's your problem. It's not. Let him go live with his parents or a friend. Let him find a new room mate. Every action has consequences. I'm not saying that he deserves this because he wont marry you, but what he said about not caring about you enough was pretty harsh after just having a baby with you.

He is a loser.

[IowaMan]

((((Mikaylasmummy)))))

Not really sure I can add to what these ladies have already said. You just do whatever you need to in order to get things so that they are right for you and Mikayla. :console:

[PantyFanatic]

Little information. Lot of answers. :shrug:

[Wicked Wanda]

Get far far away.
Find someone who does care.


WW

[musicman]

I'm with everyone else...

You can't let yourself worry about him....he made his choice...(sorry, didn't mean for that to come across as cold....)

Time to move on. Find yourself the happiness you and Mikayla deserve.

[dicksbro]

Can't add much to what the others have said ... except just know that we're all hoping and praying that whatever is best for you and the baby will happen.

(((( HUGS ))))

[codasteel]

I agree with the others. While you may have a child with this person, after his comment i don't know how you can still live in the same home.

As difficult as it may be. You have every right to find a person that will love and care for both you and your child.

[rabbit]

What ^^^^ are saying...


(((hugs)))

[Winston77]

nuff said :molest:

[LixyChick]

Think of it this way...at least he didn't use you all the way up to the "I do".

He's using you hun. And now ya know! The good news is you have Mikayla. And if she is the only precious thing you get from this relationship than YOU came out the winner.

It's a sad thing about his son but you can't make your "partner's" responsibilities your worries. I'm curious to know if he was married to his son's mother? Could explain some things either way you answer that question.

I'm not sure what advice you were hoping for here but for what we know of the situation it's the general concensus that you should take care of you and Mikayla.

I wish you well!

[mikaylasmummy]

It's a sad thing about his son but you can't make your "partner's" responsibilities your worries. I'm curious to know if he was married to his son's mother? Could explain some things either way you answer that question.



Yes he has been married previously... ummm there is a update on the situation so keep an eye out

[Loulabelle]

((((((((((Mikaylasmummy))))))))))

You know I'm a huge supporter of you! I like you and I know just how much this must hurt. Emotions are amplified 10 times after you've had a baby, so it's hard to keep things in perspective.

You must do what is best for your daughter and yourself and ONLY YOU know what that is.

Take care of yourself sweetie

Lou
x

[Eastern]

(((((mikaylasmummy))))))

I am so sorry you are going through this right now. i hope it works out for you.

[wyndhy]

if he had said "i don't want to be married again because i've been there and i'm afraid to take that chance" or "i care for you but i just can't get married", i could understand but he came right out and said i don't care for you enough. i think that's a pretty big signal that he isn't worthy of your devotion. people list a billion and one reasons why they might love someone, or what they love about their SO but rarely do they say because THEY love ME, and that's gotta be the biggest reason of all to love someone. i think it's time you move on but like lou said, you must do what's right for you and only you can know what that is. good luck, and much peace to you (((hug)))

[GreenChef]

I'm sorry to hear you are going through this, especially now
I'd have to agree with the ladies. You need to do what is best for you. You can talk to people, try to get opinions, to help you decide, but... the bottom line is, no one knows the full story exept for you and him. So the bottom line is you have to figure out what is best for you and Mikayla. It's hard, the descision hurts, at times, all the options seem wrong, seek counsel from friends and family, but only you know what is best for the two of you. It is very nice of you to be concerned about his son, but right now, you need to concentrate on You and your daughter. We can't save the world, but if everyone does their part, the world will be a great place. Don't be affraid to do what you need to, it is important for you to have a happy healthy environment for you and your daughter.
I can't believe what he said, insensitive, or just dumb.

Don't be affraid, once you've made your final descision, you will realize it was the right one, and things will become easier.

Stay Strong, take care

:console: :dance:

[Shadozfire]

Just remember this: You are woman--strong, independent, and beautiful and no one can take that away from you!