Threesome?

[koolio]

hey first post but a long time lurker!

my girlfriend and i have been steady for a long time and recently the idea of threesomes has been cropping up regular in our pillow talk

in a previous relationship i had a few threesomes with my girlfriend and one of my buddys which were all fantastic and i love the idea of watching my girl perform but am a bit aprehensive about it
not too long after me and the ex started having them we split and im kind of nervous of same thing happenening again

what you think

im getting quite excited writing this i really would enjoy it should i let my past experience stop us?

[Lilith]

It's a long way from pillow talk to actually wanting that to be the reality.

[Oldfart]

If it fucked up the first time, what makes you think the second will fare any better?

Is risking her worth the chance?

[Jude30]

If it fucked up the first time, what makes you think the second will fare any better?

Is risking her worth the chance?


Wouldn't it depend on why they split? If it was his insecurities that drove them apart, then I agree, what makes you think this time will be any different. If it was her that ended it because she had grown uncomfortable with the situation then this girl could be completely different.

I don't think this is one of those black and white situations where you can say it didn't work before and it won't work again. I think this is a situation where you have to analyze what went wrong the first time and make your decision based on that.

That all being said though I tend to believe that some things are better left as fantasy.

[Casperr]

We can't really comment, because we don't know how tight you two are as a couple. You could have the type of relationship that surmounts jealousy and can withstand anything. Or you could have a house of cards in a gentle breeze and one strong gust could bring it all crashing down.

You both need to be absolutely brutally honest about your insecurities, and discuss with each other the likelihood of disaster. What's the likely trigger point of a relationship stuggle? Are you scared she'll find your friend better than you?

Saying "not too long after me and the ex started having them we split" is a little like saying "I changed my breakfast cereal and a few weeks later my dog got run over". What makes you think the threesomes caused the breakup? I would argue the threesomes may have been the catalyst for an already impending breakup - their were cracks in the relationship to begin with, and the threesomes simply made them wider.

[rabbit]

I've been in threesomes before where none of us were committed in any way. It was a blast, but there was no risk of fallout. How will you/she feel the next day? Big, big question. Answer it before you do anything outside of pillow talk.

Good luck!

[citrus]

Go for it.

Have a two male one girl and/or a two girl one male 3some. :3way: Maybe even a 4way MMFF??
Do it!

The two of you were strangers before you met and had nothing to lose. Now that you're together you have much to gain in the full disclosure and exploration of your similar likes and fantasies. Go into it with the attitude of "Let's enjoy and exploit our growing and learning each other together." After all is said and done you'll either be closer than ever, or will have a past friend for wisdom in learning more about yourself.

Let go and fly!!

[Cjack]

I have been involved in Wife/GF Sharing for years and with out more information I wouldn't give any advice. That is what my web sites are all about and maybe you can find more information there so you can make and informed decision.