anal advice

[silentsoul]

Okay here's the deal, me and my girl have long since talked about trying anal sex. After some talking and some experimenting, we've both decided that we would mutually enjoy it to say the least. One problem has stopped us thus far, every time I start to loosen her up with my finger(s) we have to stop because she feels an overwhelming need to take a shit and it makes her too uncomfortable to proceed. Since neither of us have any experience in this area, we're kinda lost. Now we're about the biggest nymphos that I've ever seen or even heard of and we're both excited about trying this but I feel that unless we are able to solve this, we're screwed, well actually not screwed, well you know what I mean. Anyway, HELP!!!

desperate soul

[Casperr]

Hi Silentsoul, welcome to Pixies!
Firstly I must congratulate you two on the level of communication you clearly have - it's essential when experimenting with anal!!
As to your problem, I'd suggest that you do your play after she's just taken a shit, so that she's all clean there anyway, and she's empty so she definitely won't need to go.
After that, it's probably just a mental thing. She needs to relax her whole body, especially her anus and especially her mind!

Good luck, silentsoul, let us know how it goes!
CapserTG

[Lilith]

Those muscles are meant to expel things. It is a normal physiological reaction for them to try to "push out" against anything being inserted...ummmm I think this is why some men like anal...after she takes a couple breaths and relaxes these reflexes will stop. Unlike the vagina,, the function of the anus is to allow items to pass from the body not into. The pressure feeling goes away....some. Just go really slow, use TONS of lube and relax! :p

[DildoDiva]

More than likely, the feeling she is getting is only from having pressure put in that area...its only natural that those nerves are going to send the message to her brain that there is something inside her anus...it must me she's using the bathroom! But she's not....I suggest that she try an enema at least the first time that way she KNOWS there is nothing inside there that would have to come out. Then, after she knows the feelings that are going on down there, she'll be able to decipher the difference in what something feels like going in and what something feels like coming out.

Did that make any sense?

[silentsoul]

Thank you all for your replies, I think tonight is going to be the big night so you all wish me luck. I'll keep you updated.

[Aqua]

Good luck silentsoul. I just wanted to say Dildodiva's enema idea is a good one, 'casue then she can be sure she is "empty". Glad to see you and your partner are communicating... Have fun!

[silentsoul]

well I guess that night wasn't night but something very . . . different did happen. We decided that for whatever reason we didn't wanna try it that night but we still wanted to try something new and kinda on the kinky side so we had sex and I came inside her and then I decided to eat her out. I am lucky to say that she is one of these women who have such intense orgasms it's mindblowing for even me. well I don't know whether it was just the fact that my cum was present or what but by the time I finished her entire crotch and my entire face looked like it was covered with a mixture of lathered up shampoo and shaving cream. This wasn't female ejaculate, I am proud to say that I am educated enough to know how to make her shoot like a fountain and this simply wasn't it. Any ideas? I'll keep ya posted.