yeah, that's it

It happens. Sure it happens. I'm currently in the third longest relationship of my life. What that means is...at age 46 I have only had 3 "real love" relationships. I think about the past two all the time. A song, a word or phrase, an action...anything can spawn it. At those times I think to myself...OMG! What if I stayed with him or him? And then I think...Look who I'd be missing out on (my hubby)! Geezzzzzzz, I'm glad I took the road I took!

Things DO happen for a reason...whether you believe in a supreme being or fate or you just trust that you know yourself best and have chosen the best course for you at the time! I choose to believe that we all make our own destiny...in every choice we make in every hour of every day! I just hope that I don't take that for granted and I try and make wise choices I can live with!

Would it bother you to realize/know that your "little kitten" thinks of her past relationship[s] too? I think it's inevitable!

actually she's explained over and over that I REALLY am the best thing that's ever happened to her. All of her ex's were complete a-holes that was just trying to get a piece of ass. Kinda an ego builder for me knowing that kinda thing, ain't it.

I think this is the key phrase here...

I'm not sensing any regrets here, just a contemplation on the road not taken...

I think for someone who's been around for awhile, like me & most of those who've replied here ;) is that you quit thinking about "what ifs" because you've seen enough of the "what did happen" to remove the mystery...

I've seen the ex-gf, & heard from her in crushing detail of her life in the last couple of decades, & however shitty my life may seem now, I can see that nothing was lost when the zig went zag ;)

I can see wanting different breast sizes. All I can compare it to is that I've dated skinny guys and stocky guys and would sometimes daydream of the other body type when I was with one.