I am mostly guessing here, may not be the same way you feel. Calling someone anything derogitory or mean is only to establish dominence. It is to say I am better than you. That kind of mind set makes the whole sexual act nothing but using the other person.

If however the implication is that the other person is unexpected, and different, but not in a bad way, it is more of a compliment. In longer words
"you are a dirty little (thing, girl, slut etc.) aren't you?" is equal to saying I was not expecting this, but I really enjoy it, you are special. It's flirty and fun, but it does not place one person superior to the other.

well thats my take on it anyway, personally I would adore the second situation, flirty fun, etc. but mean and judgmental, bah. ruins everything

That's a really interesting take on it Nuelaan, and I am definitely inclined to agree with you.

I think it's a multi-layered thing but I'm sure that's an element of it certainly, although one I'd not really considered until now.

I love to do the dirty talk.I help turn nice married ladies into sluts.

I totally agreed with Wanda. It all depends on which type of 'dirty' the talk is. My mood will change if I am being call a whore during making love time.

*purrrrzzzzz* I've never been a "nice" married lady :brows:


As for me, ohhhh i doooo love when Catch whispers and growls sumpin like "you like this cock, baby?" when he's sliding it in faster and faster and faster and harder and harder and harder......aaaand ohhhhhhhmyyyyyygawwwwddddd!!!!

--kathy1

To me, (and this may sound prudish), dirty talk equals no respect. He'd be lucky not to have his privates separated...permanently.

Mae, your comment intrigues me:

Dirty talk doesn't have to be name calling or aggressive. Would you really find it disrespectful if in the heat of the moment he murmured in your ear:

'Mmmm baby, you've got me soooo hard....I just love your breasts....I can't wait to feel myself inside you'

???

Personally, I think that dirty talk like that conveys a sense of awe and worship which I find far from disrespectful.

There's a big difference between "Mmmmm...my cock feels so good in your mouth" and "Yeah, that's it...suck my cock, you little whore".

But then, attitude is what makes the words sexy or disrespectful. And your attitude is determined outside of the bedroom.

Sorry but not a turn on for me at all

Nor me.

I'm a firm believer in "Don't talk to me of love, show me!!'

Ha ha ha...I halfway belong to that religion myself...

I love dirty talking, but within the limits of character and region of occasion. For me, it's just not in my character to call a woman either bitch or whore during sex (or in general, except for "bitch" and only when I'm seriously pissed off at a person who done me wrong personally) although I can understand the appeal of it in the interest of the prurient. I can't really knock it if it works for other people. But if I did that, it'd just sound like I was trying too hard or imitating a bad porno flick. I don't think I have enough ingrained force into my speech for it to be taken seriously.

I'm generally a "grunt & groaner" as far as noisemaking is concerned and will delve into sparse, whispered dirty talk in her ear as we're fucking, about our body parts rather than gender-possessive pejoratives. Kinda in the "your pussy is so tight/feels so good" or "how do you wanna be fucked/do you like my cock inside you" vein. That's vanilla enough to start out with, so if she's responsive enough to that, I'll go a little further. I once told a nasty story in this girl's ear as I fucked her, because she liked the sound of my voice enough to get her grind on off of it. That was a lot of fun!

For some reason I don't get lucky enough to have partners who are nasty to be creative with their voice. Don't get me wrong, I don't mind the "moaners only club" ladies, but it would be nice to have someone tap into their inner dark side and just let loose with being dirty. I've only had that a precious few times in my experiences and in my longer-term relationships, it'd come later on after the whole initial sexual shyness thing has passed. Maybe it's something to be nurtured as well as be in nature.

I'm more of a play by play kind of dirty talker myself. More of the, "You like it when I eat your pussy babe?" or "Yeah, suck that cock!" kind of stuff. Never really been into the using of derogatory names thing. It all really depends upon the woman and the situation though. I'm perfectly content to skip the dirty talk altogether if need be.

It sounds to me like we are discussing two different things here. "Dirty talk" during sex, i.e. "your pussy feels so damn good" and just plain derogatory name calling....they are not at all related in my opinion.

i agree ^^^

hiya TT

I appreciate the views expressed. I stick with what I said earlier. Whether it is sex or not, that kind of talk is a turn off and disrespectful of the person you are with. My thoughts.