I am so sorry. I can understand how you feel being torn apart by not being able to be in two places at once. Your mum knows too. It's part of being a woman. Wanting to be there to care for the people we love.

(((((((((((((((((((Sharni))))))))))))))))))) I know how ya feel.

No need to explain. Being a "Tweener", caught between caring for your spawn & wanting to be there for the ones that spawned you, is a tough nut for even the strongest among us to crack. I believe there are 3 kinds of people in the world, those that have been there (like me), those that are living there now (like you), & those that will be there someday.

((sharni)))

I weep over the situation you are in .. sending hugs and hope you know that there are MANY here who would be there to "help" if we could, for now (like you) we can send our love and positive thoughts to the person we care about who is going through a rough time! ((((((Sharni))))))

I have news, and unfortunately it is not good :(

I finally got a hold of Dad today. The treatment is not working at all and there is nothing more they can do for her, only manage pain etc.

Mum & Dad have an appointment with the Doc this afternoon, i assume they will discuss further time left and assistance/care. Dad will ring me when he gets home after the appointment and fill me in. The Doc has told her he will be sending her home so that she can do stuff she wants to do, no good continuing the treatment that is taking any quality of life, she needs to enjoy what time she has left.

I knew in my heart it was not going well, and yeah, its not. I can't describe how i feel, verge of tears i spose, numb, lost, i dunno really.

))))))))))hugs(((((((((((((

I'm so sorry. There are no words to say except that if there is anything I can do from half a world away, just let me know.

My dear friend :tear:

I do know your hurt and know that there are no words.

:console:

What they both said.

And more.

((((((((sharni))))))))))))

you have a worldwide family here for you Sharni....

thinkin' about ya....(((Sharni)))

(((((((Sharni))))))))))

My best advice is to call her, write her, see her...enjoy the time you have left. Life is short, but sometimes it's a blessing to be able to say goodbye. Try not to leave anything left unsaid.

I'm so sorry.

(((((((((((Sharni)))))))))))

(((((((Sharni)))))))

I am so sorry to hear about your mother Sharni. A coworker of mine was put on medication to help stop the growth of a large tumor on her kidney. She just recently went through surgery to remove it. One of the techs that I work with mentioned an herb that might help. There seems to be a ton of herbs that help with many different aspects/side effects of cancer but I think this was the one I heard about

http://www.drmyattswellnessclub.com/turmeric.htm

Tons of healing thoughts for you mom and comforting ones for you (((Sharni)))

Thank you all, i really appreciate your hugz at present!


I've spoken with Dad and the Doc has told them to count in months not years :( The cancer is spreading, so its definately not if but when.

I am myself heading to the Doc this afternoon, i have had chest pain most of the day, while i believe its stress, i figured its better to get it checked than not.

Do check it out and tell the saw-bones what is going on for you. These times stress elastic :console:

Very sorry to hear the news Orli
My Dad passed away a few years ago
He was in the hospital
I would visit him on my way home from work most days
bring him dinner
(special leftovers from work, which he loved)
'What did the executives have for lunch Today', he would always want to know
He was supposed to be there for a while only
we never expected, when
I got a sudden call, come now...
Our immediate family spent the night with him
My sister managed to catch a boat and make the 400 mile drive
it was difficult he wasn't able to communicate with us,
and it was hard for us to come up with words for him
but I know for him the important thing was to have everyone there together
(though I know he hated to be seen there like that, and wanted to give us words before departing,
but he had already taught us all, and shared, so much over the years)
The most important thing for him
was always bringing the family together
sometimes I think it was easier that it was fast and unexpected
Sometimes I wish for some time to talk to him
Words aren't always easy in hard times

Not sure what to say
Take care
Talk to her
Enjoy the time you have
Live what you can
Don't be afraid she will always be with you, if you always keep her alive in memory
I miss my dad dearly
But I have many wonderful memories
And at times I can feel he is still around,
helping and guiding people and things in my life
I am blessed
Life is a wondrous thing
Live it, Love it, enjoy and appreciate it

Strength to you and your family

(((((Sharni)))))

sorry I got a little long winded there...
:console:

(((hugs)))

With a heavy heart i want to give you an update

Mum went into hospital this morning, and the Doc quietly informed Dad, that she will not be going home again. The Doc believes about 2 weeks left, maybe a bit longer, but it is progressing VERY fast and VERY aggressively.

I will be offline for a bit, as i'm hoping to fly down next week and spend some time with Mum prior and then with Dad after.

Luv ya all, and catchya when i can
OF

Go, and go safely. :console:

Take our thoughts and love with you.

(((((Sharni)))))))

Have a safe trip and sending hugs and good wishes your way. May your mother have peace till the end.

Sending peace and strength to you. ((hugs))

sending warm and peaceful thoughts your way. We are here for you!

Thank you all *hugz*

I am flying down this Tuesday, arriving late night in Melbourne, then will get picked up from there by Dad or my Brother and drive back home (prolly Wed)

Mum has deteriorated further so Dad tells me. I pray i manage to get there before Mum 'goes', as Tuesday is the earliest flight i could catch.

I will not be back til around the 24th or so, depending on whats happening. I'm very doubtful i will get online before then. I'll try to get Bilbo to drop an update when he can.

Luv ya
OF

((Godspeed))

Godspeed for both of you, and just a bit more for you. :grope:

Oh Sharni, I am so sorry. ((((((((Sharni)))))))))

Our deepest and most sincere prayers go out for you and your family, Sharni. God bless and comfort you in the coming days.

A message was left on my answering machine at 16:02, saying that Sharni had flown out as scheduled on Tuesday night (local time) but her Mum slipped away at 04:30 their time, before she was able to see her. :(

I'll post as I hear.

Thank you for the update, PF. :(

((((((((((((((((((((((OF))))))))))))))))))))))))

I don't even know what to say. I'm so sad for her.

Sharni

I hope you know that our thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family. As Lil said, I too don't know what else to day.

(((((((((((((((sharni))))))))))))))))))))

Sharni, sorry to hear that you did not get to see your mother before she pasted on, but be comforted that she is no longer suffering. Our prayers and good thought are coming your way.

Thank you all
 

Please accept my Thanks for all you have done for Sharni, your thoughts have been past onto her and she is truly greatful, as am I also truely greatful.

It is true Sharni did not get to see her mother in the final hours, but I seem just a little greatful for that, yet can not forgive myself for allowing her to wait one more day for the cheaper flight that she wanted, I do not think I ever will forgive myself for this.

My heart was shattered to know that Sharni was a mere 1 hour 45 min from home when her mother past. This tears me up inside.

But to her Pixies Family please accept my thanks for your a support for my lady Sharni, We will always be great ful for the friendship she has here.

Special thanks must go to Panty, I know you have been a strength for both of us the last few months, I'm sure you know this, but presence has bee a pillar of strength not only for Sharni but myself also, Thank you.

To everyone at Pixies, I can never thank you enough for the strength and support you have shown towards Sharni.

Thank you so very much

Bilbo

Sharni,

I hope your healing begins soon, and that you never forget the beauty your Mum gave to you - the words, deeds and memories.

i'm so sorry, sharni. ((hugs))

I'm so very sorry, Sharni.

Bilbo,

Thanks for the comments, I hope you know that you don't need to thank us.

You too need support during these times, and I hope you know that you are in our thoughts as well as Sharni.

Please know if you need anything don't hesitate.

Regards.

Nut

Bilbo, please give Sharni a hug for all of us and like 1nutworld said, our thoughts and prayers have been for you, too. For you, Sharni and all your family. God bless.