My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

I lost my grandfather a short while ago. He was terminal with liver cancer and passed at home, in his sleep. It was very difficult for me to visit him after learning of his illness. He knew the family dynamics would change, and kept the news private until less than a month before he passed on. I can see his logic. He didn't want everyone hanging around the house being sad about what was eventually going to happen. And honestly...there's never enough time to say goodbye.

Thankfully, I've never been exposed to a loved one being kept alive by means of life support. I've given Mrs. WI legal authority to make medical decisions for me should I not be able to, but like Lil...I fear the state might overule my own wishes, trying to act "in my best interest". My choice to not be kept alive via artificial means does not stem from strong religious convictions, though I am a church going Catholic. I don't want those left behind to suffer.

I'm sorry for your pain.