Hm....personally, when I was single, I was never looking for someone to be 'Mr Right' but I did not sleep around either.

To be quite frank, despite my powerful libido (just ask FussyPucker about that!) I saw little point in exposing myself to the dangers of one night stands, for, what seemed to me to be little opportunity for gratification.

I mean, think about it, if a guy I meet is not willing to put time and effort into getting to know me before we have sex, the chances are, he's probably not going to put much effort into making it a pleasing sexual experience for me either. I put a lot of effort into sex, and I want at least some guarantee that my efforts will be reciprocated.

My frustration as a single woman was that men either wanted to fuck me and leave (something that was completely unacceptable to my sense of self respect) or they wanted to marry me and keep me barefoot and pregnant within a month of knowing me (seems I 'ticked all the boxes' of what a wife should be).

Whatever happened to meeting someone, finding them attractive (on multiple levels) getting to know them better and seeing where it goes. Most women don't want to have to commit to marriage or sleeping with a guy on the first day they meet them, because at that point we just don't know where we want it to lead, if anywhere.

I think that this is the view of your average, intelligent, independent, well adjusted woman of the year 2005 and my advice would be to steer well clear of the ones who are talking about marriage on the first night you meet them and be careful of the ones who are willing to sleep with you within hours of making your acquiantance too. In both cases you're leaving yourself vulnerable to all kinds of problems further down the line, not to mention possible health issues and getting yourself a reputation as someone who sleeps around (that's a big turn off to a lot of women, these days - gone are the double standards).

So, to fill you in on what you're missing, I'd say: Women don't come in just two categories i.e. 'Nice' ones who want to get married and 'fun' ones who want to get laid. There are women out there, like Kaelynn, who want both eventually, but you have to prove yourself worthy of their attention first and that takes time.

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