I have been a BBW , was all my life until about 2 years ago. I was 26w and larger....... though now a 14 . But as far as a difference in my sexual drive there is none. I am still horny all the time same as I was when I was BBW. The first husband use to joke around that I was a nympho (sp). And I think the teddy bears out there are the sexiest things alive. (shhhhhh, don't tell the s/o, he is a bean pole). But there is just something about someone being all soft and cuddly, though I have dated men that looked like teddy bears and were actually in quite good shape. Just because you/they are a BBP does not mean that they aren't taking care of themselves or working out, or are not healthy. I have been sick more in the past two years than I can ever remember, plus it is the first time I have ever been cold, lol, which some will say is a good thing, since I use to freeze them to death. I always felt that if you truely love someone, it does not matter what happens you will be there for them. So for someone to say if you get "fat" then I won't stay with you tells you that they don't truely love you. I was 245 pounds when I got married the 1st time, and gained 80 more pounds in the next five years. One of the reasons he gave me for leaving was that he just never saw himself with someone as big as me. And that if something was to happen there would be no way he could save me (fire, falling off a boat ect....). And this was told to me with us still in bed after sex.............................. and the person he was having an affair with was about the same size I was when we had first started gotten married. So, really did not take that excuse to heart after I thought about it several months later. I guess what I am saying is that I have been there myself, and that to truely love someone size does not matter. Everyone has special quailities that are all their own.