Carl...

What a great post.. I think that you addressed a very important issue in all of this..

When someone is miserable about themselves (whether that be a weight related issue or some other self esteem defecit) it is sometimes almost impossible to get them to understand that you love them. It is frustrating to live that way... I am sorry that your wife has pushed you away.. and the others that love her as well. I do understand tho.. it isn't right.. or healthy for her to do so.. but it is logical.

When someone has such a poor self image that they don't love themselves.. it becomes hard not only to identify if someone loves them.. but even harder for them to understand why that is the case.

I hope that things work out.. I know it is frustrating.. and very painful to sit back and watch the one you love self distruct.. help her love herself... that is all you can attempt to do.

For those who wondered.. I have lost about 20 lbs so far.. tho I don't really see it within myself yet.. and I have a long way to go until I reach my goal. It is indeed a lifestyle change.. and then some for me. I am going to the gym regularly and am also on some meds to assist me in this.. not to mention a big change in my diet