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Having been there myself....not that long ago....I'd advocate having a discussion with your mate about it. Work out a solution that seems best for you both, or try some ideas out together. First I think you have to understand whether you're committed to staying with your partner and whether the relationship is worth working on.

Personally, I've found my sex drive is much higher than my husband's. This means that there are some nights I end up masturbating while he is asleep beside me. However, I've also learned -- through talking to him -- that romance is more important to him. If he *knows* he's going to have me several hours later, and I give him a scenario to dream about...he'll be hot and ready for me. I've also found that if I can get him to have sex two days in a row his libido starts to kick in and I often can get a several day stretch going. Most of all, I learned to tune in. Sex is something I'm almost *always* interested in (unless I have to pee), but for him it's more of a mental exercise.

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I think men talk to women so they can sleep with them and women sleep with men so they can talk to them. ~ Jay McInerney