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Originally Posted by qwerty
... She’s worried what her parents will think/say/do since they think she’s still a virgin. (She‘s in her early 20‘s and lives away from home but her parents are clueless)….
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You ARE at the threshold of a couple of life’s most meaningful and permanent crossroads.
You’re first issue of how to tell/ask her parents is your least issue.
First off, most parents don’t sleep as high in the tree as you seem to think and I doubt they would be shocked to think of a grown woman, living an adult life on her own, was not a virgin. Children are never too far from a parents mind and either is reality. Sorry to disappoint your girlfriend if she thinks she is going to be the first pregnant bride.
Perhaps by asking her father ‘for her hand’ may give you the private avenue for him to give the news to her mother if you truly think they will have to ‘work’ through the idea.
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Originally Posted by qwerty
….I plan to do the right thing and propose to her. We both love each other very much and this will be the best thing for the baby….
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Originally Posted by Aqua
.....Getting married because your girlfriend is pregnant is not the 'right thing'. The right thing is to make sure you take on the responsibility of being a parent. .... If it's mainly because she is pregnant it will most likely make for a very rough road ahead......I like the idea of asking her father's permission, but you would know the man better than I on whether or not it'll go over well.....
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Aqua and others have soundly advised you to recognize and accept responsibility of these major life event, but not to merge the two. Your situations has brought them to the forefront together, but they ARE separate commitments. You ARE going to love your baby and suffer the joy and hurt of any parent. If you decide this is the woman you want to raise your child with, make her understand that when you ask her to marry you. Let her know you love HER, and that you want to love your baby WITH HER.
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Originally Posted by qwerty
… She plans to keep the baby even though she’s never wanted one. She’s only been able to tell me about it thus far. ….….
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This is the detail that gives me the most reason for pause.
The only question the two of you have to REALLY search out is the considerations here. You will find it very hard to reach the truths within your selves and NOBODY can find them for either of you. The only thing more important than a fathers love is a mother’s.
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Originally Posted by Steph
Whoa, a skywriter! That would be cool! …... |
I wrote you a proposal in BIG letters, on the wall, for all the world to see.
It’s at the bottom of an abandoned shaft mine on the San Andreas fault line. Please write your answer on the opposite wall as soon as possible.
(Take your time when you’re there and think it over) 
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