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Originally Posted by jay-t

As a dad that was told we're pregnant we're getting married Iwill give you the same advice I gave to them.

Marry my daughter for love not because you feel obligated, love and care for her and my grandchild with all your heart and you will rebuild the trust that was broken it may take a little time but it will happen.Show me that you are really tryin to make a home and a life for my daughter and grandchild ,then I will help you.

ASk to marry her first before you announce the little one its not such a shock to a dads heart. Be prepaired to receive a cold shoulder from both parents for a while, it is human nature when a trust has been broken .

now when can I play with the kid? yes I have 2 son-in-laws that I love and treat as my own sons it just took a little while

Good luck and hope it works for you also

You refer to trust being broken. I don't understand.

If your child is over the age of consent, she has a perfect right to have a sex life. Surely, the role of parents isn't to stop young adults having sex, but to make sure they do so responsibly.

I lost my virginity in my mother's house aged 17 (the age of consent in the UK is 16). She knew what I was up to and who I was doing it with and actually made the appointment for me to go to the doctors and get contraception. Subsequently, I had absolutely no excuse to rebel and sleep around or have sex without contraception. I have NEVER had sex without using some form of contraception until now that I'm married and trying for a baby.

How does a grown woman, with a right to vote, marry and live away from home break a parent's trust by having sex in a committed relationship? Surely talking openly and honestly about sex and contraception would be a more productive use of a parent's energies?