If I may:

To go and have sex with this woman on your "first date" after all that has happened in the last 5 weeks would be a huge mistake, in my opinion. I realize you miss it. I realize you probably miss that feeling of closeness and security. But trust me: Any feelings of closeness, security or even love you may get from sex with her will be fleeting if you don't first deal with the issues at hand. Namely:

Respect -- does your ex respect you as a man, as potential husband? I mean does she admire you? does she listen to you and consider your point of view? Does she appreciate your ideas, your dreams, your goals?
This is the most important thing a woman can give a man. More important than sex by far. (I hope you all will understand me here.)
A man needs to feel respected by his woman. When repsect is not there, everything falls out of whack. I think the men on this board will understand me when I say this.

Trust -- Do you trust her unreservedly? Can you let her be her own person without being afraid she'll outgrow you or stop loving you? Cuz she'll know it when you don't trust her. She'll feel it if you are insecure about your relationship.

Love -- Are you willing to do what is best for her? Are you willing to put her needs above yours? Are you prepared to let her go if you come to the realization that that is what is best for her?

Just some things for you to think about (and maybe talk about) before you start back into a sexual relationship as if nothing has happened to you (and her).

Good luck....

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