Hiya packrat....since you've asked for my advice in particular I'll try to add something here, although between them the others have it all sewn up.

She says she misses your relationship and commitment - but packrat, honey, she doesn't say she misses YOU. She's lonely (hardly surprising after being in a relationship where you did all the giving and she did all the taking) and she's not sure if she likes being on her own, but that's not the same as actively wanting to be with you.

It's great that you're rekindling old friendships...it feels like for once on this board someone actually listened to the advice we had to offer! Filling your life with activities and friends will make you a more interesting person, and easier for some other young lovely to fall in love with.

As for the ex, I'm afraid I have a hard and fast rule, never to go back to an ex. It's just asking for trouble in my opinion. I certainly wouldn't entertain the idea of having sex with her, even if she puts the moves on you and there are a number of reasons I feel this would be a big mistake for you:

1. As I said before, going back to an ex, particularly after such a short amount of time is usually the wrong thing to do.
2. She had all the control in this relationship, so you need to make sure, if you're going to ignore point 1, that second time around you set the pace not her.
3. She may just be using you for sex (yes, women do this too) and this will make you feel bad. I mean really really horrible. If she's going to use you like a dildo, you may as well just buy her one.

I usually try to be objective about these things, but if you want my honest opinion, packrat, I don't think this woman is any good for you. She seems to manipulate you, she calls all the shots and she's using the fact that you love her so much against you.

Think about it logically: you say you'd be happier with her in your life....but were you happier before? When she was cheating on you? When you were insecure and feeling jealous? When you were worrying that the relationship might end at any moment? There is no reason to suggest that things will be different second time around.

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