I remember an old saying .. goes "choose your love ... love your choice" ... or in the vernacular of Dr. Phil ... sometimes you just gotta make your choice right .... soulmates is great ... can't imagine anything better, but a friend of mine once told me that any one of us could probably be reasonably happy with about 20% of those of the sex we are attracted to .... "if we are willing to make and keep the commitment" that's my theory anyway.... only you gotta know that I'm not..nor have I ever been married, so it's just theory for me.