Can I offer a suggestion .... stay the way you've always been, just pick one thing every other time you're with him that you will say .... "I want _______." and then let him decide if he wants to do that as well ..... you might start easy by saying ..... I want Italian food tonight or something like that and move into more personal things once you've gotten comfortable. Sometimes it's just nice for the person you're with to not be the one responsible for all the decisions. best of luck!!!