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Originally Posted by Jude30
There is a problem with mixing alcohol and anal play, as has been mentioned. Alcohol dulls the feelings, and that's something you really don't want during anal play. Pain means you're doing something wrong, pain is a warning.
I'm a huge fan of Tristan Taormino, she's the author of The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women. I would highly suggest getting a copy of that book, it will give you all the information you could possibly ever want when it comes to anal sex. Her message board is here, and her website is here. Both sites contain huge amounts of information on anal sex and anal play.
I would also recommend a toy or two to work up to dick size. Most people aren't going to be fitting a cock in their ass the first night out.
Anal sex doesn't always have to mean dick in ass. There are a lot of levels of anal play so just stick with what feels good to you at the moment. |
Sorry, I haven't had a chance to figure out how to "quote" just the phrase I wanted in some one elses post yet, lol... (First post, first reply)
Anal sex doesn't always have to mean dick in ass. There are a lot of levels of anal play so just stick with what feels good to you at the moment
It's a true statement. Regardless of your sex or sexual orientation. I have an "anal fixation" like your future/present lover does, or atleast from your description, it seems.
Let's begin from the beginning shall we? A few years ago my then girlfriend and I discussed relationship 'breakers'... Well, I'd had a few drinks and spouted out the honest truth. That being that if there wasn't going to be any chance of a long term relationship if anal sex wasn't on the 'menu'. To my suprise she took it in stride and started asking questions. I did some internet research and pointed her in that direction. I've always enjoyed giving pleasure to the women I've been involved with, and it still hasn't changed. It's of real importance to me. So, first, she needed to know that I wasn't going to hurt her. Second, that I wanted to make it a pleasurable experience. And third, and most difficult of all for most hetrosexual men, I was willing to experience the same from her. "All's fair in love and war" right?
So after impressing my need for anal play I left the ball in her court as far as discussion went. But slowly, ever so slowy, lol, I began to stimulate her other nether region during forplay, as well as during sex. Then one night we had just made love and I decided to make us a couple drinks and when I grabbed some ice I popped a cube in my mouth....
***Sorry gotta go, will return later to finish, seriously!!!****