I know how you feel, for a long time, even though I was married I could ONLY get there with a toy.. I felt really bad, and had to make sure hubby knew it wasnt him.. Now when I know its a MUST its ok.. But just do both, I mean there really is no harm in using both all the time, or only sometimes. I love my toys, I REALLY love my toys hehe but sometimes theres that one "itch" that only a man can reach.. You will be fine, just try different things..
Maybe get off with your toy first while hes watching, or make him get you off with it.. Then move on with him.. That way he doesnt feel like you need more than him (works for me)
HUGS
it will be ok really, and never give up your toys, sometimes its the only thing that keeps us girls goin!! =)

Sar

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