I've been with my husband for 4 years now. He was/is my first, but I am definitely not his. I had practically zero experience when we first started dating. He's been very frustrated with me for a long time now and I don't blame him. He has a very high sex drive and I apparently don't. How do I get into sex more? It doesn't help when he says, let's have sex and tries to get on top of me. It makes him grumpy when I'm not ready to go just like that.

When we do have sex I know it's not satisfying to him. He's never been able to get me off without a vibrator. He tells me to talk dirty, but I never know what to say. Nothing will come out of my mouth, I feel like I'm just going to sound stupid. He's always the one that is in charge, because I feel like I don't know what to do even after 4 years. Does anyone know anything we can try to make sex better for both of us?