05-11-2011, 04:28 PM
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Pixies Horse Widower
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Join Date: Jul 2002
Location: Scotland
Posts: 9,484
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Originally Posted by Lilith
Did your baby get to go say good-bye? When my Grams died, when it was my tie to go in the visitation room I closed the door behind me. Apparently this shocked others but I needed time to be alone with what was no longer her. I needed to say good-bye without having to worry if my actions and feelings were hurting others or being embarrassed by them. Peeps heard me through the door and kept knocking and I just told them to go away, that I'd be out when I was ready.
Let her go and block the door for her. Let her say good-bye her way.
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She did Lil, thank you. She spent the time alone with her mum that she wanted, and seemed almost - serene? yes - afterwards. A good decision I think, for someone so young, and extremely maturely handled.
The service was unusually pleasant; relaxed, unstressed and, in parts, actually quite amusing! Sad too, of course, but a very good turn-out for her, and a goodly sum of money raised via collection for two charities close to my ex's heart.
Today my daughter told me that last night she dreamed of her mum, for the first time since she died. She was a wee bit upset about that, but I've reassured her this is utterly normal and will probably happen again. The most distressing thing was, the dream "morphed" into Miley Cyrus singing some ridiculous song! (Nothing new there, then!) Good to know she can still laugh.
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Originally Posted by pinkFlames
I'm terribly sorry to hear of your daughter's loss, DM.
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Thank you sweetie.
DM
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The selfish, they're all standing in line
Faithing and hoping to buy themselves time
Me, I figure as each breath goes by
I only own my mind
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