With my marriage I get very frustrated if my wife is not interested in making love to me . We can go 4+ without making love.This frustration overflows into all other aspects of our relationship. However, when I am "getting it" I seem to be happier and make my wifes life easier as well, by being more understanding, more helpful around the house, and more cuddly and intimate.

On the other hand my wife says that when I am happier and less frustrated she feels warmer towards me and is willing to have sex more often.

It is a catch 22 situation, one that we are working towards correcting.

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