Skip's answer interested me, as I do not feel that cheating is the act of having sex outside of a monogamous relationship, but that it is sex (or any intimate act - even kissing) behind the other's back. I am really not a particularly jealous woman, although of course I do have my insecurities, but I HATE the idea of a partner lying to me. If a partner of mine ever had an indiscretion I would want him to feel that he could tell me so that between us we could decide what to do about the situation, than for him to lie to me about it.

I know I may not be the sexiest woman on the planet and that there WILL be other women who will be tempting to my man, but I also know that I'm not the most stupid one on the planet, and if an SO were to lie to me, then I'd feel that he was undermining my intelligence. Being lied to makes it impossible to maintain one's dignity and THAT can be harder to deal with than the fact that your SO has been in the arms of another.

To answer the question, no I am not having an affair and I never have, although I was in 'the other woman' role for about half an evening once. Hated it. Will never do it again. I have a strong philosophy that if you aren't happy or fulfilled with the one you're with, then it's not compulsory to stay in the relationship. I don't believe in fucking someone else's life up just because I can't make up my mind between two people or because I don't want to risk losing them both.

I realise how naive this all sounds but I have been tempted by others on plenty of occasions and each time have had the good sense to end one relationship before embarking on another. I try to live by these rules as I can't live with my conscience otherwise but if others can, then who am I to judge? Everybody's different.

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