To answer the original question, NO. While my ex was away for six months in the last part of the relationship, there were more than enough opportunities, and even though the relationship was not good, I would not even consider it. I have strong views on commitment, and when I make one, I can't cross that line. I was accused of having an affair. My ex didn't believe that the child we had concieved was his and believe me it is nice to know that there was no way in hell, other than immaculate conception that this was his child. He could accuse all he wanted and there was no guilt or secret questioning. I knew what I knew.

As far as the cybering question I have to agree with loulabelle on this...If it is done secretly than it is an indiscretion and in my book that doesn't sit well or work FOR ME. If it is in the open then I have the right to decide if it is something I can live with or not. I just think that if I found out about a "cyber relationship", or a real life affair, after the fact, I would feel that obviously something was missing from the "real relationship". And all those insecurities we try so hard to get over would come rushing in and ruin all possibility of a healthy relationship. If it was done in the open and it was understood that it was just sexual "fun" I would be okay with it. I have certainly grown a lot in the past few years and have come to realize that just because "we look" or "fantasize" doesn't mean that our partner isn't all we want them to be. The best part is to be able to look and fantasize together or to at least share these experiences on some level with my SO.

This is my opinion on the subject and in no way is meant to reflect my views on what others choose to do in their own lives. We all make our choices and have to be able to at least try to understand what leads others to do what ever it is that they do.

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