Be fair, guys...the girl's upset. First help her calm down, then tell her she was silly....cause you know as well I do that it just doesn't work the other way around.

CP: You said two things, I think. First, you don't want him to compare you. I think Bunny's right...that issue probably lies in you. Guys can masterbate to all sorts of images...not just the ones they find MOST beautiful...it could just be a momentary interest in a position or feature. Or just convenient. You're right to talk to your lover...but you also have to listen to him when he tells you when he doesn't prefer them to you.

The second thing you mentioned is trust. He told you he wouldn't look at THOSE sites (whether it was a reasonable request or not, he agreed to it). He did it anyway. You sound like you feel specifically betrayed because he did something he said he wouldn't. That can undermine trust, and isn't fair. Again you have to talk to him about this. And you have to be careful to seperate those two issues in your mind, because mixing them up is going to confuse him.

But ask yourself...if you were convinced that he thought you were the most beautiful girl in his world, would you care that he looked at pictures of women who looked like you? Maybe, if you spent some time looking at the pictures of asian women with him, and talking about what turns him on about those particular pics...you'd feel more comfortable that those pictures are just a piece, and you're the whole package. Dunno, really...just a thought.

Hope you can work through it.