loulabelle _ thanks very much for the advice and i will take evrything in mind what u have said to me.

osuche - thanks you seem to be the only one that says go for it ! not that you others dont casper! but i will bear everything in mind

nubian _ thanks babe. Me and pudsey have disscussed evrything about my mate comming over and he says he feels fine with although im not to sure. I have got a friend i can call if anything goes wrong who can be with me within a few minutes if needs be. At the end of the day i trust my mate immensley and know he wouldnt do anything i wasnt comfortable with.