Well............ I am Cobalt's other half. This is how I feel about this, and I will, hopefully make myself pretty clear on the subject.

STRESS is a big issue in life, and that does not promote a constant supply of sex. Tiredness and guilt for a lack of sex drive is a contributing factor. Hormonal changes should be considered, and that doesn't help the situation either. That is the physical aspect that may lower someone's sex drive.

Now, the mental aspect. Guilt is another factor that needs to be considered. It gets to the point that if there is discussion about the lack of sex, the feelings of guilt can overcome any desire to have sex.

I feel bad that I don't have the desire for sex 3x a day, 7 days a week, like he does. I feel terrible about it, and the fact that I don't understand why my body is not willing and my mind is, well, sucks a big one!!!

Now, in your situation.........your wife may be physically exhausted. Children have a tendency to do that to a woman, and the ages that yours are contribute to that exhaustion. Also, I understand that the implants have a certain type of hormone that can inhibit the SSR production in the brain that can lead to hormonal fluctiouations and mood swings. That kind of birth control can also effect a woman physically (like you described with the spotting), and lack of lubrication making sex very very uncomfortable (so much so, that it is avoided).

In addition, what has been suggested is nice. But you should do them because you love her, not for an exchange of if I do this for you, you should have sex with me kinda thing. Sounds kinda like a bribe to me.

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