I can sympathize, also. Been there, done that, still here, doing that still.

Here a couple of things you can do, from the male point of view:

1) Love her. She is still who you fell in love with, and are spending your life with.

2) Be there for her---which also includes not being there for her. Take the kids out and leave her to a night of blissful quiet and peace.

3) Pick up the slack. Nothing eases my wifes stress from work than when she comes home and the house is clean, the living room is clean, the dishes are done, etc.

4) Don't add pressure or stress. Take the time to talk to her openly and honestly about it, and the possible solutions---several of which are listed above. But don't dwell on it. Bringing it up every time you are horny is a sure way to drive a bigger wedge in her.

5) When romance happens, let it happen, don't force it, don't comment the next day about how great it was. Just relax and allow the both of you to enjoy it.


In the meantime, alternate hands, use lots of lotion, take multiple showers, and enjoy yourself. You might learn a lot about yourself during this time also.


Jim