Hugs Bunny Darlin, I think one of the best things is to have a good friend who's been there to talk to. You've had 2 offers and even a third if you'd feel the urge. I'm always happy to listen to a friend. Now if the talking isn't enough, you might consider a good councilor. I did during and after my divorce and it made a helluva difference. I'm not suggesting that I know a lot but being in a rut can sometimes put us in a place we need some bread crumbs to find our way back. Let us help if we can or find a professional shoulder to lean on. In either case, I wish you the best Hon.

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As to marriage or celibacy, let a man take which course he will. He will be sure to repent - Socrates

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