Thank you for all the replies. I don't think I was specific enough he is NOT forcing me or giving me any ultimatums at all. He isn't telling me I have to do anything I am not comfortable with.

My concerns are very real because it is very easy to say that everything with be ok after the act takes place but I am almost positive that when i do go ahead and do this I know for sure he will lose all respect for me and won't want to be with me anymore.
I know a few couples who have done this and it has ruined every single one of their relationships. Again, he is NOT forcing me to do anything. He told me if it happens great but if it doesn't then that is fine too but I know deep down he would really want me to do this. It isn't something that any couple should jump into lightly but the one question that keeps popping into my head is that I am obviously not enough for him and that is what hurts and bothers me. I am not 100 percent against the whole idea I am simply more concerned about the after effect which no one knows what that will end up being like until after it happens and that is what scaresme to death. I have to admit that since this issue has come up It has made me take a hard look at my relationship and what it has been based on and as much as I care and love him there have been some things that make me very sad. Then again maybe this will bring us closer together but I haven't made any decisions as of yet.

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Missy