Colbalt....Your opinion is absolutely not wrong and is just fine with me. I have to say it takes a "Real" man to admit his faults and it was very nice to read what you wrote. Yes, I understand that it may be hard for certian men to open up emotionally and want to kiss, cuddle etc. As for me I don't need or expect to be cuddled or be romanced 100 percent of the time but every now and again would be nice a little reassurance to make a woman feel special goes such a very long way. At least for me it does it's the same as when I am upset or hurt about something I don't always have to sit and discuss things to death all it takes for me is a sweet gentle little kiss, hug etc. The problem is when you never ever get those things it kinda makes me feel like I am only there for convience only during sex and all I am is a body not a person. This makes me very sad and afraid because if it is always going to be this way then eventually I know after I can't tolerate it anymore I am going to be left with choices to make and that doesn't seem fair. Can I ask you a question if you don't mind? If you are aware of your wifes needs why not do something about it? Relationships are not easy but what really amazes me isn't the person we choose to be in our lives worth the effort? I know myself that I do so much and not becasue I am forced to or feel obligated, I do it because I want to and because it makes me feel good knowing I am making somone else feel good. When the same is not returned to me I can't help but feel unimportant and that my feelings do not matter. I am no where near a selfish person and i never could be so I guess i find it very hard to understand why things are the way they are. The one thing I am sure of is that it isn't anything that I am doing wrong and it isn't a problem where I need change but what it comes down to is how much longer am I able to do without the lack of intimacy.

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Missy