Nearly three years. Vaginal penetration is too painful for my wife and she is absolutely set against anal. Doctors can't help her, even with drugs, hormones and KY. I've had other relationships during our marriage that have fulfilled my needs to please and be pleased. However, I met somebody really special in Australia and I can't be unfaithful to her even though we've been separated all this time and probably won't ever get together sexually again. The answer to the other questions you may well be asking are that I have a son who needs his parents to be together right now and I couldn't have sex with my wife in any case because the only bond we now share is our son.