We all cheat in some way or another, don't we? I don't think that means there's anything wrong with the relationship, but it doesn't mean it's an OK thing to do if it involves physical cheating.

It seems to me that we'd all be pretty boring if we were totally devoted to our s/o. And pretty unrealistic if we expected them to reciprocate the devotion. I cheat because I don't get sex at home. If I'm found out, I won't have a home. I feel guilty about cheating. I'd like permission to satisfy my needs elsewhere but that's not going to happen.

Those who have an open relationship have much to be envied, because they don't have to cheat. Those who both want to stay totally faithful to each other (however they define faithfulness) also have much to be envied. I wonder how many of us fall into the remaining category?