Thanx for all you replys still not sure what to do - a couple of things i didnt mention is my wife is 30 im 40 and we have both been married before our sex life was as hot as you could get it, but then the kidz came along , with no chidren from our previous marriages i think she put everything into them, but now i dont feel anything when she wants a kiss or a hugg its like the last 4 yrs has completly drained me of affection for her i have told her how i feel and now she is making a special effort but i feel nothing for her inside.
do i just carry on for kidz or move out ???