the love has changed ..... that means it could change back if you are both willing to put the effort into doing so ... sounds like she's at least willing to try ... a promising sign .... however, for that special love to return, you have (both of you) to be willing to do the things that bring about special love ... LarryL said it right when he mentioned that "love" is a verb ... an action word .... we deeply and truly love those who we serve for a reason, because we put thought and action into the event.

Some of the things that help us to love someone .... spend time thinking about them (in a positive way), think about the good qualities in your wife, think about what makes her happy and then plan something around that ... doesn't have to be big ... but if you do that every day or every couple of days, pretty soon you're likely to begin to not only think of special things about her, but feel special things about her as well .... give it time, spend the emotional energy to fall back in love with your wife ... you already know how difficult divorce/splitting up is, isn't it worth the time and effort to try to get back to love rather than walk away and feel the emotional baggage draggin around behind you, let alone the expense and loss of time with the children you adore.

Not saying this is for every marriage, but it sure sounds a lot like you find yourself not emotionally invested in your marriage anymore and not like you have come to a place where it is impossible to get back to it if you are willing to .... (though I could be wrong .... and you have to remember, I'm not married, so it's all kind of out of my realm of authority) ... Best of luck!!!!