Once again it seems Grumble has so eloquently expressed the same sentiments I was thinking. Look to the things that brought you two together in the first place. Try to talk about those things you have in common. Who knows if you talk about sex you may find there's some common fantasy things you've held back that could add to the attempt of emotional rekindling. Whatever happens, I wish you both well.

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As to marriage or celibacy, let a man take which course he will. He will be sure to repent - Socrates

Love is not looking in each other's eyes, but looking together in the same direction - Antoine De Saint-Exupery