We've done the swinging thing, and threesomes.. and I have to say I prefer to swing with couples than do threesomes...

Personally, we have always had a relationship with the couples we have swung with, even if only a brief one.. Not really been into the "wham bam thankyou mam" kind of thing that the clubs are into.

Theres always good sides and bad sides.

I think the most important thing is that you are clear between yourselves what you want, and what your boundaries are before you get into anything. (AND stick to it!) As there is nothing worse than seeing when it goes all wrong, when someone does something the other didn't expect or want, and then mistrust creeps in. I've seen it happen with other couples.