If someone is a "new" lover or a recent find, I typically do not ask first. I do believe in chivarly and I prefer the man to make the first move. However, if he is someone I know quite well....I have absolutely no issues being the aggressor.

I know it's a funny double standard, but there it is.

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Life is too short not to love and be loved....preferably multiple times in one night.

I think men talk to women so they can sleep with them and women sleep with men so they can talk to them. ~ Jay McInerney