I more or less agree with Lixy, it is we are damned if we do and damned if we don't. Career choices also play a role in it as well. Though I don't always sit back and wait, life really wouldn't be much fun that way. But as with most others here I am more forth coming after getting to know someone. And there are such things as stupid questions, I know because the most stupid thing I ever did was ask the 1st husband to marry me, lol. I learned my lesson there