I love to have mine licked in circles around it....really light feathery flicks of the tongue at first with increasing pressure....and just occasional flicks lightly across the very tip (that's my most sensitive/almost painful area)....with it ending up a flat tongued pressing hard against my clit when i cum. Add some fingers in me just as I'm about to cum and I really do turn into a screaming mimi.

(Oh, and a big yayyyyyy for you and your wife....i can see the smile on her face from here)