For me, and my personal rape fantasy scenario, it's about being freed to enjoy the experience without guilt or reprocussions. With control goes responsibility. Take away the control and create a victim...and you've removed guilt and remorse from the equation. How can this be held against me when I was taken against my will?

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Though I am different from you,
We were born involved in one another.

For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.

Complete surrender should not just come at moments in which one faces overwhelming odds, but in the calm when it seems one is personally in complete control of one's life.