IF an etiquette sticky ever does get made, I've got one vote right here that wyhndhy's post get made a part of it. That was wonderful.

To take my own stab at answering the question I imagine was intended, and I am sorry if I'm getting it wrong, if my partner was less adventurous than I was....but curious about the big, wide sexy world out there....I'd say you were doing it wrong, actually. I don't mean that badly...but as much as I do love that everyone's got their own kink, it can be pretty intimidating at first. Rather than try to convince her that cum-baths are perfectly healthy or deep-throating really is a blast (not saying those are what you're focusing on, truthfully I don't know what you're focusing on)...you've got to follow her lead. Find what interests her, or what turns her on. Not by taking her to a smorgasbord of sex and saying "choose my dearest, it's all good", but rather by listening to what she comes up with herself. At first that might be more focused on romantic vanilla sex....under a moon, or in front of a fire, or coming home and finding your SO in formal wear with a rose between their teeth. Classics that still turn my crank, but before I broadened my horizons THAT'S what I wanted. I worked my way into the rest of it slowly, and at my own pace, one step at a time.

I know you've said that she wants you to lead, but leading in the sense of pulling her along may not be right. And from what you've said, it doesn't appear to be working. Instead of trying to lecture her about all the good stuff out there, teach in the sense of a parent....holding her hands, keeping her steady and safe, while she teaches herself to walk. You've got a son, you remember what that was all about, right?

It may be a year before she decides she's ready. That's fine. It may be twice that before she wants to go for kink. You have to let that be ok too. Cause one of the things I've seen go wrong with my friends when they were starting to be sexual is that in order to impress/keep the more experienced men they were inevitably falling for...they tried to run before they could walk. They went for kink and technique to proove that they were "real women" and it shouldn't ever have been necessary.

And that's enough for me. Hope this helps some. Really, it is just a reiteration of what came before...but I couldn't help putting in my 2cents.

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