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So, as I am still a virgin (and yes, one very very reluctant about sex), I hope that I can help you understand her train of thought. There are a lot of things about sex that I don't understand and probably never will until I really experience it. There is a lot of fear in the unknown and sex is not an exception. I have recently started dating a guy who respects me enough to accept that I am not ready for sex. Putting pressure on someone to experience something that they feel they are not ready for is disrespectful. It is a big step for some people and making such a decision takes time. The only way to "woo" her is to give her time to become comfortable with sex on her terms. Pressuring just makes it worse. If you really care about her, you will respect her decision and not question it. She will decide when she is ready for it. It's hard enough to make that decision on your own without having someone on the sidelines trying to coach you too. Really, it's all about choosing what is right for you and making sure that it IS right. It's a big step for some people and it deserves a lot of consideration and understanding from both sides.