One other thing occured to me phelan. You need to make sure you know where your responsibilities end. You've bailed her out as far as rent goes, and you've tried to help her both think through her plans and find alternative solutions. You've already done enough to qualify as a good friend. But you're neither her parent, nor her guardian angel. And if she makes a decision she later regrets, the results are in no way your fault. Don't take on guilt for not being able to stop a grown woman from making her own mistakes.

Hope it all turns out for the best.

G